Divorce is a major life change, and the process can be difficult for both parties, both financially and emotionally. Taking steps to make the process easier for both spouses is well worth it in the long run.
The process of mediation can be beneficial to both parties in resolving major issues of a divorce. A trained mediator will help the couple narrow down contested issues and discuss their positions on all matters. The mediator will help both parties work toward solutions on the contested issues that are amenable to each. With issues resolved through mediation, a divorce will be finalized faster and will cost far less to complete than through litigation and court battles.
Ability to have effective communication prior to the mediation session
Effective communication between divorcing spouses will greatly assist in resolving contested divorce issues through the mediation process. This may not always be possible as problems with communication may be a contributing factor to a divorce.
If the spouses can discuss and resolve some of the contested issues prior to mediation it will shorten the mediation process and be less costly. The divorcing couple can then use the mediation process to resolve the bigger issues that they are unable to agree upon themselves. The mediator can help a couple communicate more effectively, so many times if their communication is too stressful, all the issues can be resolved during the mediation sessions.
Preparing before the mediation sessions
The success of a divorce mediation session is greatly helped when both spouses are organized prior to attending mediation. One important way to do this is to have all relevant documents in hand as the mediation process begins.
Financial issues are some of the most commonly contested issues between spouses. If they are able to bring their completed financial disclosure form and any associated supporting documentation with them, it will allow them to make the best use of the time. Tax returns and up-to-date income information is important as are insurance policies and documentation associated with bank accounts, retirement savings accounts, credit card debt and any other personal indebtedness. .
Another way for the couple to prepare for the divorce mediation session to have made notes of their own thoughts and goals. The idea of mediation is to reach a compromise that both parties can agree to, so being prepared with ideas of a resolution to each contested issue is an asset. Since all the issues may not be resolved in the initial session, couples are encouraged to take notes to assist in the following sessions.
When “it’s time” for you and your spouse to discuss a marital divorce, mediation may very well be your next, most reasonable step. Our office can be reached at 585-750-6530 or online at fingerlakesmediation.com.