By Michaele Gantz, Finger Lakes Mediation and Divorce Coaching | fingerlakesmediation.com
A Simpler Path Forward
Divorce doesn’t always have to be a fight. At Finger Lakes Mediation, we’ve seen firsthand how couples who start from a place of agreement can find peace and closure without courtrooms, high legal fees, or months of uncertainty.
That’s why we created the Self-Made Divorce Program—a guided, step-by-step process for couples who have already made key decisions and are ready to move forward with confidence.
“People often assume divorce must be painful or adversarial,” says Michaele Gantz, founder of Finger Lakes Mediation. “But when both parties agree on the big things, like assets, support, and next steps, it can actually be calm, respectful, and empowering.”
Why Choose a DIY Divorce in New York?
Since New York became a no-fault divorce state in 2010, couples have had more freedom to separate peacefully. If both partners agree on all major issues, an uncontested divorce can be straightforward and affordable.
Traditional litigation, by contrast, can drain energy and bank accounts. We’ve seen couples spend months in legal back-and-forths that could have been avoided with clear communication and the right guidance.
“After our first meeting, we realized we didn’t need to fight over every detail,” recalls Emily R., a former client. “We wanted closure, not chaos. The Self-Made Divorce Program gave us that—without feeling like we were losing control.”
For couples like Emily and her ex-husband, the DIY route was not just about saving money. It was about preserving respect and avoiding unnecessary conflict.
Is the Self-Made Divorce Program Right for You?
The Self-Made Divorce Program isn’t for everyone, and that’s a good thing. It’s designed specifically for couples who have already done the emotional and practical groundwork.
You may benefit from the program if you and your partner:
Have agreed on how to divide your assets and debts
Understand any spousal support obligations
Have no minor children
If this sounds like your situation, you’re likely a perfect fit. You’ve already taken the hardest steps by communicating honestly and reaching decisions together. Our team simply helps you turn those decisions into a legal reality.
What to Expect From the Process
We keep it clear, efficient, and compassionate from start to finish.
Here’s what the process typically looks like:
15-Minute Phone Call – We start with a short call to confirm your eligibility and answer any initial questions.
Document Gathering Session (60–120 minutes) – In person or virtual, we’ll walk you through the required paperwork and help organize all documents.
Review Session (15–30 minutes) – You’ll meet virtually to review your Memorandum of Understanding and confirm that every detail reflects your agreements.
Final Signing Meeting (90 minutes) – Finally, you’ll meet with our in-house attorney to sign the finalized paperwork and prepare it for court filing.
At each step, you’re supported and not left guessing. “We didn’t feel alone,” says James P., who completed the program in 2024. “Even though it’s a DIY process, it still felt guided. Michaele explained everything clearly and made sure we were comfortable before signing.”
When Traditional Divorce Mediation May Be a Better Fit
Not every couple is ready for a DIY divorce, and that’s completely normal.
If you’re still working through questions about finances, property, or emotional closure, traditional mediation may be the better option. Our seasoned mediators help couples explore these areas in a safe, structured setting.
“Sometimes one partner feels ready, and the other isn’t,” Michaele explains. “When that happens, we shift gears and guide them through our traditional mediation process. It allows space for discussion, and that can make all the difference in long-term healing.”
We always reserve the right to refer clients to mediation when it’s needed. The goal isn’t speed at any cost—it’s ensuring that every couple walks away with clarity, fairness, and peace of mind.
Affordable Solutions for a Peaceful Divorce
Divorce shouldn’t destroy your financial foundation. The Self-Made Divorce Program was built to lighten both the financial and emotional load.
By eliminating unnecessary steps and focusing on what matters most, the program offers an efficient, low-stress alternative to the traditional court route.
Here’s what sets it apart:
Simplicity: Clear steps and timelines.
Affordability: Avoid high legal fees.
Efficiency: No months of waiting or court scheduling.
Support: Professional guidance from experienced mediators and attorneys.
Couples often describe a sense of relief once they begin. “It was easier than we thought,” says Karen L., who completed her divorce last year. “We’d been separated for months and wanted closure. I expected paperwork nightmares, but instead, it was quick, respectful, and honest.”
At Finger Lakes Mediation, we view divorce not as a failure, but as a transition, a chance to begin again.
How a Peaceful Divorce Can Shape the Future
The tone you set during divorce often shapes your next chapter. Couples who separate amicably tend to communicate better afterward, especially when shared social or financial ties remain.
Even in cases without children, lingering resentment can slow emotional healing. A calm, organized process allows both partners to leave with dignity intact.
“Looking back, I’m proud of how we handled it,” says Mark P., another Self-Made Divorce participant. “There were no winners or losers, just two people making the right choice for their future.”
These stories aren’t rare. Every week, we meet couples who prove that divorce doesn’t have to mean disaster. With the right guidance, it can be a step toward personal peace.
Why DIY Doesn’t Mean “Do It Alone”
The Self-Made Divorce Program combines the independence of a DIY process with the reassurance of professional oversight.
You’re in control of your decisions, but you’re never left to navigate the legal system alone. Our mediators and legal partners ensure that paperwork is complete, timelines are met, and every detail is handled with care.
It’s a balance of empowerment and expertise—one that leaves clients feeling both supported and self-reliant.
The Long-Term Benefits
The benefits of a DIY divorce extend far beyond the final signature. Couples often find:
Faster emotional recovery because the process feels collaborative, not combative.
Healthier communication patterns that carry into co-parenting or post-divorce interactions.
Financial freedom without the burden of litigation costs.
As Michaele puts it, “When couples work together to close one chapter, they open the next with less resentment and more confidence. That’s what peace looks like.”
Take the Next Step
If you and your partner have already made the hard decisions and are ready to move forward, now is the time.
The Self-Made Divorce Program offers a clear, affordable path toward closure—without the courtroom chaos.
Reach out today to schedule your eligibility call. Let’s find out if this program is right for you.
📞 Call or text: (585) 750-6530
💬 Message us: through our contact form
At Finger Lakes Mediation, we believe peace is possible, even in divorce. Let’s help you find it. Visit fingerlakesmediation.com to learn more and schedule your free consultation.
